Dear Vanessa ~ The Voice Inside My Head


Dear Vanessa – the voice inside my head #selfesteem #now #livinginthepresent

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Did you know that if we live in the present we will feelfull? This is what God wants for us. He wants us to experience abundance, to trust in Him, to worry in nothing at all, to love, to forgive, and to know how beautifully made we are.

But there are the voices in our heads that hold us back from being present.

The voice inside speaks up, it tells you:

  • You are not good enough,
  • That doesn’t look good on you,
  • You were not a good friend, daughter, mother, sister, father, brother
  • You could have done better,
  • They don’t like you,
  • Your illness is going to get the best of you,
  • You cannot overcome this,
  • You can’t do it.


The list goes on.   Growing up, I was always envious of those that had inner self-assurance. But perhaps what I saw was not the truth. On the outside…

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Sharing Your Story For Good

sharing your storySecrets…. Fear… Judgement… Pain…

We all have experienced these feelings.   We push the event downward, or we avoid talking about it.  But did you know that by sharing we can heal and let go of the shackles that are holding us back from becoming all that we were meant to be?  Step out in Faith.

Do you have a story stored deep inside that needs to find its way out?  Is it a work of God in your life, or an experience that He has delivered you from or given you the strength to endure?

We all have stories that define and refine us to make us new.    Our stories can help others, and are powerful tools for building Gods Kingdom.

We may at times in our lives feel like we are in a storm, but the storm happens for the good of His kingdom.  God calls us to share and it is by sharing that we defeat the evil one and spread the good that has happened in this life. Your story can bring hope, joy and lift the fear whether it is for you or another.

  • “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Genesis 50:20 (NIV)
  • “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—“ Acts 1:8 (NIV)
  • “Let each generation tell its children of your mighty acts; let them proclaim your power. I will mediate on your majestic, glorious splendour and your wonderful miracles.  Your awe-inspiring deeds will be on every tongue; I will proclaim your    Everyone will share the story of your wonderful goodness; they will sing with joy about your righteousness.” Psalm 145:4-7 (NLT)

We need to realize in this life we are not in control of “what” happens.  The “what” is all up to God, but there is one thing we can control – we can control our response.    If we choose to respond by leaning on God and to respond by opening up and sharing, supporting, and loving one another,  can ignite a power beyond all understanding.  

  • “Listen, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD alone.  And you must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength.   And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today.  Repeat them again and again to your children.  Talk about them when you are at home when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”  Deuteronomy 6:4-7 (NLT)

God wants us to share, to support, to love.    He wants to direct our paths, and speak the world through us.   The devil comes to steal and convinces us that our story is not worth sharing, and wants to keep us silent. 

Self-Discovery and Story Framing

Questions to navigate through as we discover the stories deep down inside of us:

  • What were the moments in my life that created changes in me as a person? Who was involved?  (Ponder)
  • Did these moments change the direction of my life? If I was to sum up my experiences into one word what would it be? (DISCUSSION)
  • If I was to sum up my experiences into a statement or sentence what would it be? (DISCUSSION)
  • What verse in the bible has impacted me the most on this journey we call life? (DISCUSSION)
  • Who was I before these moments occurred?
  • How did I meet Jesus in these moments of my life? What did I learn?
  • What was the “good” that came out of these moments?


Sharing My Story

It may feel outside of your comfort zone to share, or you may feel unsure.   Remember that the devil comes to steal; are the words that you are hearing – words of love or self-condemnation?   Some key points to remember when you choose to share your story:

  • Sharing my story builds understanding of Jesus’ power to save and heal.
  • Sharing my story builds others and brings down the walls we build inside to protect.
  • Sharing my story can be based on my level of comfort (written, to let go of the feelings inside, or with friends/family). I can pray for direction here.
  • Sharing my story will help myself and others.


“Not only so, but we[a] also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”Romans 5:3-5 (NIV)

If you are unsure about how much you want to share, pray, give it to God and He will direct your paths.  The voice inside us is powerful and can build others up.  Shine your light.

Today take the first step, pause and pray, and write down 2 people you can share your story with:



You are also welcome to share your story with me, you can email me at

May you be blessed.

What’s Your Secret?

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A secret – something that sits unseen deep within…

Something that manifest inside us….

Fearful of letting it out….

I will be judged….

Do you have a secret that you need to let go of?

The act of letting go is an instant release.     Our perceived fear holds us back from really experiencing all we are meant to be.  

I have a secret ~ I suffered from Depression as a teenager and was hospitalized as a result.   I had a nervous breakdown, and medication was used to stabilize a girl that felt empty inside.    

Looking back on that girl; I feel heartache for her.     She didn’t see how beautiful she was inside out.   She was chasing a dream.   She was allowing something or someone else to define who she was.   We look at climbing the corporate ladder, our education, or what people say about us, that next big house or sparkly car, or money to define who we are.     Then when one of these things falls apart, we are broken.   But we can be restored…. We need to realize that our secrets, our wealth, or external validation does not define who we are.  We believe the lies that we are not good enough.

Our secrets hold us back from living in the now.   Fear we can all see it and touch it.

The perceived Shame and The Secrets hold us back. Let go of the fear, and the secret that is holding you back.   Write it down on a piece of paper, share it with someone you love, or share it with me.   Let the secret go and if it requires forgiveness choose to forgive.

Living in the past and the perceived future holds us back from really enjoying the present.   Take a step forward and choose to live NOW.

Life is beautiful when we choose to be present in the here and now.

The Voice Inside My Head

where is your focusThe voice inside speaks up, it tells you:

  • You are not good enough,
  • That doesn’t look good on you,
  • You were not a good friend, daughter, mother, sister, father, brother
  • You could have done better,
  • They don’t like you,
  • Your illness is going to get the best of you,
  • You cannot overcome this,
  • You can’t do it.


The list goes on.   Growing up, I was always envious of those that had inner self-assurance. But perhaps what I saw was not the truth. On the outside things may look beautiful, but on the inside it could be completely different.

I believe we all struggle at times in our lives to measure up.   Where does that measuring stick come from? Perfection…..

Is it something we create inside our heads?   Based on what we hear and see?

Age softens doesn’t it?   As we age, some of us evolve and realize that we are meant for more.

We are meant to thrive, not just survive.

We are meant to love fully and completely.

We are meant to live in the moment and be present.

The question is “How?”

But the How is largely up to you.   Your friends, your family, your coworkers cannot help you.   You need to help yourself.   You need to stop the voice inside and realize that you are meant for more. YOU have the power to choose your response.

In the book, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, he explains “When someone goes to the doctor and says, “I hear a voice in my head,” he or she will most likely be sent to a psychiatrist.   The fact is that, in a very similar way, virtually everyone hears a voice, or several voices, in the head all the time: the involuntary thought processes that you don’t realize you have the power to stop.”

You do have the power to stop the voice.   We have complete control of letting that voice spin out of control.   Stop, pause, and reflect on where that voice is coming from, what is the source, and is it real? Or is it simply something you have created?

Living, thriving, loving every moment is dependent on YOU.

How do you choose to respond? Where is your focus?

Dear Vanessa ~ The Power of Love


Dear Vanessa ~ The Power of Love

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Dear Vanessa,

I have been married for 10 years, and marriage feels dull.     No more flowers, open doors.  Sometimes I think, really is this what I signed up for?   As valentine’s approaches, I believe it is just another day.


Dearest Reena,

Yes sometimes relationships can feel this way.   Life sometimes becomes routine.   But do you think that sometimes it is in the eyes of the beholder?  I can only speak from my experiences, and I know this may not be what you want to hear, but life is as we see it.

Relationships require work, every relationship requires work.  Whether the relationship is at home, at work, or with friends, what you put in is what you get out.     Sometimes, our actions create reactions.   Perhaps you need to take the first step?  Also, does your husband know how you feel?  Communication is essential and foundational in relationships. 


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Dear Vanessa ~ Love Makes The World Go Around

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Tonight as I sit and gaze at the moon light, I realize although I do not know it all, I do know one thing– Love makes the world go around.

Love so powerful, so magical, and at the same time brings such peace to this life.

In “Man’s search for Meaning” by Victor Frankel, he says “Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he…

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Reflection ~ Past, Present, Future


reflectionWe cannot change the Past.

We cannot control our Future.

We can live fully Present.

There are moments when each of us reflects on our life, our goals, our opportunities, and take stock of what we have been given and wonder what is to come.  

Sometimes these moments are triggered by an event, an action, or a moment where we chose to pause.

Reflection on the past, present and future.

We cannot change the past, but we can use the past to adjust the present.  


We learn, we tumble, we fall, and we pick ourselves up and step forward.

Being immersed in the present is a state of mind that we all find difficult to achieve.  But why?

  • We allow worry to consume our thoughts involving health, finances, and relationships.
  • “What if” scenarios creep in and cloud our mind.
  • We allow others to define who we are.
  • We have lack of boundaries and deplete our internal resources.
  • And one of the biggest things, we let fear rule.

What if instead we:

  • Start our day with gratitude, reflect on the beauty that surrounds us.
  • Decide that the moment is all we have control over, the rest is beyond our control.
  • Look in the mirror and see the reflection looking back at us and realize we are beautifully made, unique, and only one of us exists.   We look at that person and smile warmly.
  • Reflect internally to help us define who we are, and realize that the love of self and others is really what defines this life.
  • Learn how to say “no” a simple word that helps us balance our resources.
  • Embrace today, and think of one thing we could do for another human being, expecting nothing in return.
  • Let go of all envy, jealousy, and thinking into the future.
  • Are open and hopeful for today.

We have no control over the future, and cannot change the past all we can do is learn from it.  

Embrace all that life has to give, live in the present, and stop your mind from ruining all that you are meant to receive.

The present is here and now, embrace all that it brings.   Embrace the sunshine and the rain.   All we have control of is the here and now.


Matthew 6:30-34 (GNT)

30 It is God who clothes the wild grass—grass that is here today and gone tomorrow, burned up in the oven. Won’t he be all the more sure to clothe you? What little faith you have!

31 “So do not start worrying: ‘Where will my food come from? or my drink? or my clothes?’ 32 (These are the things the pagans are always concerned about.) Your Father in heaven knows that you need all these things. 33 Instead, be concerned above everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all these other things. 34 So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings.


Take a step forward and immerse yourself in all that you were meant to receive.  Living in the present is a gift we are meant to receive.

May you be blessed,