Hello faithful readers, I have been blessed to become friends with a wonderful group of woman through writing. Gina is one of these individuals, we have some similarities in our journeys so no coincidence that we found each other. Her blog site is located : http://ginaquarles.com/
In the US it is Thanksgiving on Nov 28, in Canada we celebrated it in Oct 14th. But I do believe this post is timely, we all have so much to be thankful for and during this time of year it is really easy to get wrapped up in the “wants” vs the “needs”. What are you thankful for? Take some time to read Gina’s post, and be blessed!
Thankful to Be Thankful at Thanksgiving!
The month of November is one of my favorite months out of the whole year. Thanksgiving is right around the corner and it is a time when the seasons are changing right before our eyes. We can see this beautifully, as nature unfolds itself for all to adore. It is a time of reflection for many and a time of feeling pure appreciation for several things in our lives. What are you thankful for?
Just like nature and all of its wonder, it is a time many go though change as well. When we tend to appreciate even more in our lives we feel thankful. When we are thankful, express gratitude, we are happy and smiling and we are feeling the “feel good” chemicals in our body that it naturally produces. We seem to radiate and send out more of the positive energy that can often be contagious. It is such a good thing! It is so awesome when you can notice and feel this type of spirit going around.
I have plenty to be thankful for as I reflect on this past year. I tend to be more thankful for the non tangible side of things this time around and I think I know why. As many of you know, I was in a life threatening car accident in January 2012. I have come to realize that for myself, when you go though a near death experience as I did, your perception of life itself changes dramatically.
I was incredibly thankful that GOD had spared me. Even with all of my limitations and many threats of death at first, I did not care. I was so thankful to be alive. Of course I was in shock and wasn’t thrilled about my halo or my broken leg and many ribs. That was all so minor in the big scheme of things. I will say, I was extremely scared when I woke up eleven days later.
Knowing I was alive and even NOT knowing what my outcome would be, I was thrilled to be back with my family. My husband, my children, my life just wasn’t finished yet! But what could I do? Not much that was for sure. But fortunately, the future dictated differently.
I am thankful for my miraculous outcome. I was blessed with coming home to recover and have my hubby as my nurse. The joy of being home, in my familiar surroundings and seeing my children again, left me feeling elated. I felt safe after not feeling safe for a very long time. I did not want to be in a rehabilitation center miles away with more staff caring for me. I wanted my family. I missed them terribly after being away for months in the hospital. I was truly blessed.
My recovery, while very long has been an experience that wasn’t as hard as one may think. I know that sounds crazy to some of you. So many things that could have gone wrong have not. Again, GOD is good to me. The biggest concern now, is walking without a limp and my pressure wounds healing. But, because of YOU my surgery is happening much sooner than I expected. If you saw my box of medical bills you would understand. For that, I am so very grateful. Not the bills, the surgery:).
I wont sugar coat and say it was all smooth sailing. There were days I would just breakdown crying. I wondered why me and what does this all mean for my future? I felt fear, sadness, loss and I was grieving my old self. I dealt with some people in my family of origin that completely let me down. The emotional pain of that is slowly getting better. Time does heal all wounds. But with all of that, a strength held and comforted me and got me through it. I know much of it was the support of good friends, family members, all of your prayers and I will say, my attitude.
When you face a life altering experience like I did, you have a choice. You can let it break you or make you. There were unfortunately those who tried to break me and or your thoughts can try to as well. Key word, “try”. You can imagine the worst. Do not allow any of this to happen. You do have control. You may feel as if you do not, but trust me, you do. Your thoughts and what you tell yourself is so vital to recovery. I realize it matters to all of us even without an accident or in the face of tragedy. Just for mental sanity, it is important and a wise practice for a much more stress free way of living.
The nice thing is that the reality you are making becomes easier over time You are the one creating it. If I told myself I would let my condition define me, then it would. Then I became vulnerable to what my situation dictated. That lack of support from those in my family of origin coupled with physical pain I was in was a complete set up for some very real depression. Everything mattered more, if that makes sense. I was vulnerable and very sensitive.
When I told myself I was in charge and would not allow anyone or my condition to confine me to an identity I did not want for myself or that was true, I was free. ” I ” made myself into who I knew as Gina. We just work that way. It is so freeing. Words cannot describe this. It is a personal experience. But, the nice thing is, you do not have to have a near death experience like I did in order to do it!
The thoughts you allow yourself to have and who you surround yourself with matters. What you read and fill your brain with matters. What you seek you will find. So seek happiness and appreciate the priceless things that surround you every day. Make yourself a priority. Take the time to get quiet and “be still” and focus on your life and where it is going. Are you happy with it? Are you contributing? Are you loving others? Ask yourself and answer these questions. Reflect. Love yourself and say, “thank you” often.
We get our priorities mixed up at times. Life is crazy busy like that and if we do not pay attention, it flies right on by and we can miss out on timeless experiences and feelings. We can fall into a rut so to speak. Take that time I mentioned and make “you” a priority. Examine your life and ask yourself many different questions more often. You have one life friends and some of the things that we let consume us, you will find are just not worth it. Others, do indeed deserve much more of our time. You are not obligated to anything or anyone, only to those persons and things that fill you up and surround you with the love we all are worthy of.
Time is like money….spend it wisely!
I hope you all have much to be thankful for. I know I do. I choose to not just think about it in November anymore. I am thankful everyday. Everyday presents us with many things to be thankful for. We just need to stop and take notice to see them more often:).