What do your eyes see?

IMG_1479Yesterday for the first time I realized that the lens I look through is so different now.  Years ago, I let my mind wander into the “what ifs” , I spun my wheels, I made a million lists and didn’t rest until all were complete.

Today,   I am thankful for seeing the wind flowing through the trees and notice the sparkle in the leaves.   I see the birds dance across the lawn.   I notice every movement and realize all of the beauty.

Gratitude is the center.

Love flows through every inch of me.

Every day I wake up and start the morning routine, and as I drive to work, I thank  Him for second chances.   My eyes begin to tear, and I am so full with the love I have at my center.  

The laughter in a child, the beauty in everything.

How can we make gratitude at center?

Do we need to slow down to smell the roses? 

Run, lists, endless items on the “to do lists”.

Is this a choice?    Do you have the power to choose something different??

Our thoughts and choices we can control.   Where do you choose to focus your lens today?

Remember, the power is in you.


He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. Ecclesiastes 3:11



In Need of Rest?


Rest can be defined as:

  1. Cease work or     movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength.
  2. Remain or be     left in a specified condition: “rest assured”.
  1. An instance or     period of relaxing or ceasing to engage in strenuous or stressful activity.
  2. The remaining     part of something.

Or one of my favorite verses in the bible that refers to rest:

28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” ( Matthew 11: 28-30 NIV)

I feel like this time of year brings change, if we allow it to soak into our souls.   But this time of year for many brings challenge….

Could you imagine actually resting this week?   Or have you been thinking about your “to do” or “to see” lists?  Have you been consumed with thoughts of “how am I going to get this all done”?

Or perhaps you are going through a bit of a bump in the road right now health wise, or financially, and thoughts of “when will this end” come to mind?

We choose how we can respond to this time of year.  We can choose not to race, worry, or get caught up in the small “stuff” this time of year.   I have come to realize that in the moments when we slow down and allow peace and calm to fulfill our souls  – we begin to feel easy and light.

Our minds can get caught up in the crazy busy life, and overwhelmed with the circumstances so easily.   I am sure satan sits back and thinks “Yes! I am winning here.” 

But one thing that we must all remember is that we can create our own mountains to climb, when in all reality it is just a little snow drift that we can just shovel the snow aside.   The snow may be heavy, but eventually it becomes light and you make it through.

Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life”.

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?” (Matthew 6:25-27 NIV)

The worry affects how we feel, our health and how we react to others.   This statement in the bible paints such a clear picture of the impact of worry.   It can consume and ultimately decrease the time that we have here on this earth.    Yes life can be hard sometimes; it can push us in a variety of directions.   It is how we react in these situations that make all the difference.  We can control how we respond.  We all have choice.  I chose to be light, I chose to have strength in hardship, and I chose joy to cherish every single moment with the ones I love and care about.

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)

So as we enter this wonderful Christmas season, be blessed.   Slow down and rest.  Rest your weary mind, and allow the peace to settle in.

  • Sip a cup of tea or your favorite latte, and look back on pictures of family or friends.
  • Read a book you have not had a chance to read.
  • Meditate, pray, and enjoy the moments.
  • Take account of 3 things every day that you are thankful for.
  • Spread the happiness, send a little note to a friend or loved one.
  • Tear up the “to do’s” or “task” lists.  And just roll with it.
  • Shift your thinking from having to do, to wanting and enjoying every moment.
  • And finally, but not least, be blessed for who you are and what you have.

So I ask you, can one moment of worry add another day to your life?  Replace that worry with prayer, thanksgiving, and joy as we enter this amazing season.

Be blessed.


Are you feeling overwhelmed? Take one step forward.

image (2)All of us, at some moment in our lives have been in a place where our breath has been taken away.    In those moments, we hope that things would change or we could go back to a place where we didn’t feel the hurt.  

This is a broken world, but we can be restored through love, hope and joy… through Him.

We are not meant to understand the “why’s”, but I do believe we are meant to experience these moments in our lives.   They build us, they help us realize the love we have deep inside for a friend, a family member, and these moments give us hope for the better.   

Many years ago I read a book by Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.  The book provides a snapshot of the experiences of this amazing holocaust survivor.  

He says, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

We cannot control what happens in this life, all we can control is how we respond.  I am reminded of this daily.

                The child that has to endure another chemo treatment.

                I can support the family through prayer, and provide a meal to help ease the pain.

                The mother who doesn’t know how long she is here.

                Be an ear, listen, give my heart and pray.

                The friend that just lost their job.

                Support, love, and give where I can.  Pray.

                Children a world away that have to live without clean water.

                Ask myself, can I spare $40 a month?  Can I sponsor this child? Pray for sunshine for this child.

                The mother, father, father in law, mother in law that are ageing, changing, that we love so much.

                Pick up the phone, extend yourself, help where you can, live, love fully and pray.

                Balancing family and life demands, looking for help.

                Pray for prioritization, refocus, pause, breathe.  PRAY.

He is there listening to us.    Waiting, wanting us to breathe and pray.

Mothers – A gift from above


Mothers – we all have them, and when we reflect on these amazing women, we smile.   Women that give their 24 hours to the ones they love.  Often thinking about everyone else before they think about themselves.    I am blessed, to have a mother and a mother in law of strength.   Yes, this world is not easy.  We all hit a wall at times in our lives where we need to hammer away and break it down.   But we can make it through, with love and strength.   1524820_10151937501936010_2125577911_n

Major events have happened over these past three years, I cannot even make this stuff up.  But the key is finding grace in the moments that take our breath away.  Mom you have shown me this.     I also want to say the same about my amazing mother in law.  We all have had to put one step in front of the other, but we keep moving forward.

Day after day God shows me His gentle hand. He is always there, and always promises triumph. Although it may not be on our time, but triumph ALWAYS happens.

John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

We are meant for an abundant life, if we learn that we are not in control – that He is there to lead, lift, carry and hold. I thank Him every day for the perspective in the pain, and the love that always shows through.

Today lets all reflect on how amazing our mothers are. For those of you that have children, we tend to be hard on ourselves on our ability to “mother”. We are our worst critics… Remember to always give yourself a basket of grace. REST. 

I adore my mother, she is a testament of strength and has a heart full of gold. She has always put others before herself (sound familiar)?? In dedication to this amazing woman, I thought I would write a poem to capture my thoughts.

A Letter to My Mom

As a babe, I look up at my mom and see her blue eyes.

They are beautiful and bright.

The love radiates and flows.

A love that cannot be explained, unconditional.

A bond that is everlasting and shared by two.

Over the years, the eyes change – brought by love, hope, heart ache and pain.

The lines and creases begin to show.

The lines define the moments in time where there was much happiness and sometimes tears.

She is strength, she is life, she is warm, she is a fighter and she defines love.

She has helped me most to grow.

She has helped me through my life and my “lows”.

She feels my pain when I hurt, and over time as I grow, I feel her hurts too.

We are one; the bond can never be undone.

She healed my wounds when they were deep, she has whispered sweet words as a child to me when I sleep.

We share a bond, that is so strong.

All through the years, I know this much is true, I have become the woman I am today because of you.

You are my mother – a women of strength, determination, living with your heart and soul.

I adore you.Me and my beautiful mama


Take some time to celebrate the mothers, grandmothers, step mothers that have helped us through our lives. A remember to celebrate you too when you’re doing it!

Do you have superwoman syndrome?

untitledDo you have superwoman syndrome?  Do you ever feel like you are running like a chicken with your head cut off?

I am a wife, a mom, a sister, a daughter, a friend, and a co-worker.   Running from A to B, and sometimes wondering if there is enough left for me? 

Trying to find a balance… Balance what’s that?

It is easy for this to happen in our lives, as women I truly believe we have this innate ability to see what others need.   We look to fulfill the need and sometimes, do so by overextending ourselves.  Sometimes the lines get blurred, and we give and give until our glass is overflowing. 

The example of the overflowing glass of water:

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.” It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

I loved this example, because it relates to how we take on more than we can handle.  How our boundaries in life can be blurred by holding on too long, looking to be the savior to our friends and family, and feeling heavy.  But God says,

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11: 28-30 NIV)

Come to me, and I will give you rest…. Is it that simple?! YES!  Lift up your worries, trust in God to take care of others when you need to nurture or care for yourself.   He is our Saviour and you need not take on that role.

Love yourself enough to let the burdens go.   Start with taking care of yourself first, then your core family unit.   If you feel like you have more to give after that, they take on small pieces.   You do not have to function at 100% in all areas of your life, only you set the bar that has become unreachable.  And remember, it is perfectly fine to say “no” or not commit to something right away, sleep on it or pray about it before you commit fully.  Ask God to help you prioritize.

Dear Lord God,

Too often we take on more than we can handle, help us to lift up our worries to you Lord God, you are in Control.   Help us to focus on the right things, help us to know when to say “no” and feel good about it.  We look to you God, help us relieve our burdens and let us feel light.  I pray for this in Jesus Name Amen. May you be blessed, Ness

Here is another wonderful blog posted that talks about priortization, how do you chose to spend your life –


Advent Week 4 – Renewal

imagesOver the past four weeks, I have written about the following themes:

1)    Rest

2)    Reflection

2)    Hope

3)    And now, Renewal

God wanted me to hear the words I was writing, especially in this season.  My heart has been heavy over the past couple of months.   Heavy with burden, heavy because I feel the pain that others are going through.    My heart has been softened by the hand of God, and sometimes I just wish I could take the pain away.   I know that this is not my role, it is God’s.  He is in control, and He will relieve the suffering in His perfect time.

Matthew 11:28-29 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.


Is your heart heavy this time of year, especially when we see such turmoil across the land? 

Or is it light? 

Have you lifted up your thoughts, worries and prayers? 

Have you stopped making lists and allowed the peace, joy and serenity to fill your mind?

May I trust in You, Lord, and do good;

May I dwell in the land and feed from Your faithfulness.

When I delight myself in You,

You will give me the desires of my heart.

I will commit my way to You and trust in You,

And you will bring it to pass.

You will bring forth my righteousness like the light,

And my justice like the noonday.

May I rest in You and wait patiently for You;

I will not fret because of those who prosper in their way,

Because of those who practice evil schemes. (Psalm 37:3-7)


We are entering the most wonderful time of the year. This is a time when our Saviour was born to bring us peace, understanding, and freedom from the shackles.    All we have to do is Trust, and give it all to the Divine workings of our Maker.   

During this Christmas Season, renew your mind; allow the peace, joy, understanding to consume your thoughts.    Remove the lists, the running, and enjoy every moment.    Immerse your thoughts in love and joy, and thanksgiving.

As I close before the Christmas season, I am going to give my worries, thoughts and fears to God so that I can concentrate on the “right” things this time of year.   So thankful for you Jesus, thank-you for always being there and coming into this world to save us.


My Christmas Note to God

Where are you Christmas?

Why is there so much pain?

I pray for those families who are dealing with loss of a loved one.  I pray for You to bring them solace and peace of mind during this season in their lives.  I know You can –  our wonderful Saviour.

Where are you Christmas?

Why are so many in need?

I pray for You to bring hope to those in need during these difficult times.

I pray for my family, bring them strength during this season in our lives.

I come to you Lord and I must lay down all of these burdens, expectations and requests at your feet..  They are too much for me to carry, I don’t have the answers but I know You do.

I pray for Me Lord God, fill my mind with your peace, understanding and wisdom.  Teach me Lord to walk in your ways and to set an example for others in all I do.   Give me strength when I feel like I have nothing left.

Where is Christmas?

Christmas is here, everywhere I look.

Christmas is inside our hearts, and in the hearts of those we love and care about.

Christmas is that special sparkle in your child’s eyes.

Christmas is in the smile that a loved one or friend gives to you.

Christmas is in the laughter and love.

Christmas is in each one of us.

Thank-you Jesus for coming into this world to bring us love, peace and joy.   I pray for you to fill everyone in this world with your love in their hearts; soften them and let them rest and renew their minds and souls to concentrate on the “right” things.

May you be blessed ~Vanessa