As a young girl I didn’t realize that my thoughts created my reality. Years later, as I look back in time, I was often a victim. Yes, there were circumstances that contributed to this way of thinking, but I was in the dysfunctional emotional triangle.
It is so easy to fall into the triangle of dysfunction. There are three roles:
- The Victim: thoughts of poor me, why do they treat me this way, life is always hard, actions that demonstrate feeling unworthy, and the world is against you.
- The Savior: thoughts of I can save them, they need my help, I need to rescue the situation, actions that demonstrate a sense of urgency at every corner, helping put out fires and acting like superwoman/man in every situation.
- The Persecutor: thoughts of why did they do that, they caused the problem, it was all their fault, at every corner this person plays the blame game.
Do you see a theme here? Emotionally driven reactions. When we are in this triangle we cannot see the situation for what it is. I was in this triangle for most of my life. How exhausting hey? But when you are use to a state of drama in your life, that’s what gravitates towards you on a continual basis.
This leads me to the power of choice. We all have the power to choose a reaction, and a state that is different. I have heard people say that I have always been this way, that’s just me, can’t change. I will respectfully disagree, because we all have the power to choose a different response. The power of choice is an amazing thing.
There was a moment in my life where everything shifted, and I realized that I had the power to move forward or the power to become a victim of my circumstances. This occurred when I almost lost my life. My injury was one that 10% of those people that have the injury survive and live a life where they are able to function normally. Odds totally against me right? WRONG.
My choice was to believe in something beyond all of our understanding, to trust in Him completely and move forward in His grace. Looking back it was a scary time, so much unknown. I am not free from physical pain, but I choose to believe in the best outcome. My fracture in my neck never healed or fused completely, but I choose a life that is full.
Every moment of every day I choose to see the good. There are times where the old habits catch me a bit, and I fall back in for a few moments, but I pull myself back out. The power of choice is an amazing thing.
YOU my friend have the power to choose the good before the bad, to move forward in your life and create your own silver lining in every circumstance. What you put out there in life comes full circle. Do you choose to project the good? Because I am telling you once you remove the drama, and the emotional dysfunction, life becomes sooooo good.
May you be blessed my friend, and know you have the power inside of you in every moment.